A first butt plug does not need to be big or complicated. It needs to be the right size, the right shape and used with patience.
1. A flared base is essential
Anything that goes in the rectum needs a base wider than the toy, so it cannot slip inside. Every plug from our plugs and training sets range has a base designed for this.
2. Start small
Pick a small, tapered plug first. A graduated training set, like the B-Vibe Butties sets or the glass dilator sets, lets you move up in size at your own speed instead of buying one plug after another.
3. Pick the right material
Silicone is the usual first choice: smooth, flexible and easy to clean. Glass and stainless steel are rigid and also easy to clean. See body-safe materials explained.
4. Plenty of lube
Use more than you think you need and reapply. With silicone plugs, use water-based lube, never silicone lube. See how to choose lube. Our JO anal lubes are made for this use.
5. Relax and go slowly
Take a warm shower first, breathe slowly and insert the tip gently. Pause until you feel your body relax, then continue. Never force it, and stop if it hurts.
6. Wear time
For a first try, keep it short, a few minutes is plenty. Build up gradually, and do not sleep with a plug in.
7. Clean it afterwards
Wash the plug with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner, then dry it fully. See how to clean your toys.
Not sure what to buy? A small training set is the easiest way to start. Browse all plugs and training sets.
This guide is general information, not medical advice. If you have a health condition or pain that does not settle, speak to a doctor. Every After Dark order ships in a plain, unmarked box, free over $175 across Canada.
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